There are all sorts of cheating in relationships but there is a growing debate about whether one night stands really constitute cheating. Is a one night stand really cheating? Yes it is. But, and here's the really big, but, it's often easier for a partner to forgive a one night stand than it is to forgive a long and drawn out affair.
Of course, it must be one, one night stand and not an entire string of them. You should also avoid banking on that forgiveness. Some people have a different view of fidelity and the vows you took to forsake all others (and what it means to them) than you might. You know your spouse better than anyone else.
Before you decide to have that one night stand it's a good idea to ask yourself what the response will be at home. No matter how hard you try to hide it, the odds are good that your spouse will find out – eventually. In the end, any cheating is still cheating in the eyes of the person being cheated on – even if some forms of cheating are easier to forgive.
Don't forget to factor the law of unintended consequences into your equation when weighing the pros and cons of a temporarily pleasurable one night stand compared to the lifetime of love you are planning to have with your spouse.
Life is filled with "what if's" and there are plenty of them to consider before taking the plunge and engaging in a one night stand.
What if a pregnancy occurs from the fling?This could be devastating to you and your marriage no matter if you are the man or the woman. The child that will result is your child and you will forever be bound to the person you had a fling with as a result. There are no guarantees that this will not happen no matter how careful you both happen to be.
What about STDs?No matter how careful you are there is always this possibility. STDs can not only destroy your life but also that of your spouse who you bring them home to. There is nothing on this planet that protects from every conceivable sexually transmitted disease. It's a high price to pay for one night of potential pleasure.
What about the emotional aftermath?You can't unring a bell. There is no going back once you've had that one night stand. It's an experience you can't erase. What if you fall hopelessly and madly in love with this other person? You may intend a one night affair or a casual fling but once that night is over will you be able to walk away unaffected?